Make Her Happy
Just Say No to Usury
A few years ago in the United States, it was illegal to charge more than 21 % on credit card debts. Most people do not understand how our monetary system works. For these reasons and others we allow ourselves to get into various different kinds of debt.
By now you are probably thinking you are at the wrong website but you are not. I want to help relationships and money is a big part of all of our relationships. Under the Federal Reserve System money is created when loans are made. The monetary system we all live under is designed to expand the money in circulation by continually creating more debt. In our financial system money is debt and debt is money.
This being the case it should be obvious to you that the money lenders will always find ways to lend money to people in order that the money supply can grow. On the surface this all sounds reasonable, but the problem comes do to the fact that doing this distorts the value of the existing money, and makes it worth less than it was.
This whole process puts individuals into situations that cause stress to their relationships. It may be time that we all begin to take a serious look at credit, and began to lighten our debt loads.
I am sure you can remember a time when you did not have any debt and how free that experience felt. Being out of debt can make you and your special partner feel very happy. In today’s reality you rarely find someone who does not have debt of some kind.
Now some suggestions for you; decrease your debt, even if it takes a while. When you plan a date with your special person plan on paying with cash or your debit card but don’t use a credit card for that expense. I won’t belabor the issue here but do all you can to lighten your load, and you both will feel happier and good things will come from that. So Make her happy by lightening your debt load.
The Management
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This Excerpt borrowed from Wikipedia
Usury is the practice of charging excessive, unreasonably high, and often illegal interest rates on loans.[2][3]
Originally, when the charging of interest was still banned by Christian churches, usury simply meant the charging of interest at any rate (as well as charging a fee for the use of money, such as at a bureau de change). In countries where the charging of interest became acceptable, the term came to be used for interest above the rate allowed by law. The term is largely derived from
Can You Really Make Another Person Happy?
The question is can you really make anyone else truly happy, what do you think? The truth is that we can do things that can help another person to be happier, by giving them things to help them feel appreciated.
There are many different ways to accomplish this. A new gift that you think they would like, such as taking them out to dinner or to a movie to an amusement park etcetera.
All of these things you can do. And I am sure that the other person would definitely enjoy these actions. Most people would be appreciative of you doing these things for them.
But I want to take a deeper look into this concept of Happiness. Without getting into all of the different personality types suffice to say happiness comes about by the outlook which one takes about life.
But what is true happiness? Happiness is a state of mind a feeling that has to come from within the actual person. It’s a feeling when you wake up in the morning and say to yourself I can’t wait to see what this day will bring. It is a state of looking forward to the great experiences that life has to give.
The psychologist James Laird (1974) found that when individuals were induced to smile and then later asked about their mood those who were induced to smile reported happier moods. By the same token individuals who were induced to frown were more likely to feel sad or angry.
What I am saying here is that if you start your day in a more positive mood you will most likely be more upbeat. It may take a little practice on your part but try it will pay huge dividends.
When you see successful individuals you most likely note how much they smile. Smiles are addictive; research has shown that smiles can induce others to smile as well. Other research points to there being actual brain cells that fire when someone is smiling at us, which induce us to intern smile when we come in contact with an individual who is smiling, these are called mirror cells in the brain because they have this effect on us.
Other research shows that by just lifting your shoulders, and correcting your posture and walking more erect can have an effect on your mood. You might try it when entering a room just walk erect it will elevate your mood you will feel happier. So if you want to be a happier person remember to smile often, and project a smile of your face, it will do wonders for your relationships, and others will want to be around you more often.
To sum it up find something to be happy about and get you to a better place then watch how those around tend to smile more which will make for a more pleasant atmosphere. That’s the true key to happiness even when you are a little down practice these tips you have learned here they will pay off big.
The Management
Happiness continued…
Is happiness a concept of the mind? What do you think? Much of happiness seems to revolve around our thoughts. We say we are happiest when things are going our way. But what do we really mean by that. That would seem to be a concept of the mind. Why am I writing about this concept of happiness? I will give you the answer, because if happiness is just a concept of the mind in our modern fast passed world, then we most likely have more control over our perception of happiness than we think.
Many of us do not even really know how to be truly happy. Someone once said that we” human beings are truly happy when they are working towards the progressive realization of a worthwhile goal.”
I think this is an interesting and very wise definition for happiness.
How many times can you remember thinking that (some- thing) some object was going to make us happy, only to realize after the fact, that the attainment of that item left us empty and looking towards the next big thing. What I am attempting to say here is that it would be better to understand happiness before filling our lives with things that in the end will not satisfy us.
I know that it is important for people to be happy, without a sense of happiness then what would be the point of our existence on this beautiful planet. I really want people to be happy! I believe the world will be a better place when people are truly happy. The problem is that individuals do not even know where their happiness stems from.
So I intend to continue to write on this subject of happiness.
The Management
You’re Thoughts
To be happy we humans need to monitor our thoughts, you can do this it’s easier than you think. I will share with you something very powerful, it is that when you are thinking the right thoughts you will feel good.
The thoughts that you entertain will either make you feel good or make you feel bad. Have you ever noticed that when you are thinking of your bills you begin to decline in the level of happiness you are feeling? Possibly when you entertain thoughts about someone you don’t agree with you may feel bad.
Our feelings of happiness definitely are correlated to our thoughts. Ok you say so what can I do about that? Well the answer is that you have control over your mind. It just takes a little practice. When that thought that makes you feel bad, change the thought immediately. Think of something you want or something that you know makes you feel good.
This may require you to monitor your thoughts at first, after a while it will become automatic for you. When you or your special mate do this you will see things get better in your life. Our thoughts control our lives, and we cannot afford to waste our time on negative thoughts. The more you practice this you have learned here the happier you will feel in your life.
So monitor your feelings it will be the key to a happier life.
The Management
Make her happy by understanding what your relationship is based on
Sometimes we need a wakeup call, because we humans really do have the capacity to delude ourselves if we are not careful.
When you first met your mate, there undoubtedly had to be an attraction. Surely you were attracted for physical as well as biological reasons. This is fine without the right chemistry it is doubtful you would want to be with that person.
Now that that initial period is over what is your relationship really based on? After the initial courting phase you need to build up your relationship. This usually happens naturally over time through all of the common experiences which the two of you will share as time passes.
That is also very good, but I would like you to look even deeper into the value that you derive by being connected to that other person (your partner). Undoubtedly that person has attributes that you admire. Perhaps you recognize that you lack some of the attributes which your partner has. So in a way the two of you are stronger together than apart.
Things which you consider important someone else may not. This is generally called compatibility in relationships. Compatibility is just saying that the two of you are compatible because you place value on some of the same things in life. It is generally believed that people who share the same values will get along. You probably heard the old saying “birds of a feather flock together.”
Compatibility works along those lines. The more areas the two of you agree on the more compatible or harmonious you both will be in your relationship. But I don’t know about you, but I would not want to be in a relationship with my clone. Sometimes the fact that you and your mate see things differently can be more exciting. I have found that in most relationships the two people actually complement each other. You are actually stronger as a couple than you are apart.
So make her happy by accepting the fact that she is different than you, as she brings a fresh approach to your relationship.
Make Her Happy by communicating in your relationship
All of us humans are conditioned to respond to situations with emotion. If you think about it will make sense. If you didn’t have language to communicate what would be left.
Psychologist know this and that is why when they are working with a patient they will ask them about some situation in their life, and say how does that make you feel?
We are all feeling persons. To have a good relationship requires that you understand this concept. Your girl will respond to you with her emotions, and you will feel the pain if you don’t get it. Because that’s how we are made, we will interpret a situation, and then pick an emotion to go with that particular situation. That makes me feel good or that makes me feel bad. The emotion is felt and then the interpretation of the situation with the emotion. This happens really fast so we don’t at times realize that we did it.
To have great relationships requires us to take responsibility for our feelings. Some times when I talk with friends they will confide in me some situation what they are going through in their relationship with their mate, and I will always tend to ask them if they had explained to their mate how they felt about that particular situation. Almost always they will say no that they haven’t. Now they have all of these bottled up feelings which they have not been able to communicate, so they generally will tell a close friend but not their mate. Now I am not advocating that you have to tell her everything that has happened in your entire life some things are better left unsaid and should probably be left to die silently.
But relationships are built on sharing, and it’s important to share how you feel about many things in your relationship, so that your partner knows what your feelings are on certain subjects. This is how you build a relationship. Relationships are built on communication and sharing of information. As you communicate your relationship grows, and the trust between the two of you also grows. Practice by sharing your feelings about things. You will see your relationship improve by leaps and bounds. So Remember to make her happy by communicating.
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Make Her Happy By Making the Evening Special
Something which I do from time to time to time, is to go to the grocery store and pick up some different cheese’s usually three different flavors. If you don’t know much about cheese you can ask the people who work in the deli department they usually have a good understanding of which are the good ones.
Next or first the order doesn’t really matter pick up vegetables such as broccoli, cauliflower, baby carrots, I also like celery, and then get some dip, I prefer the vegetable dip. You can add sliced salami or ham also. And this is important do not forget to select some good crackers to go with it all. What you are doing is creating a vegetable platter.
Now select a great bottle of wine to go with your veggie platter and you are set for a great evening with your girl. Doing things like this can go a long way towards keeping that spark alive in your relationships. She will appreciate that you went to all this trouble to make the occasion special. You should do this even though it may not be a special anniversary or anything. You are doing it to create an atmosphere just for the two of you to enjoy.
I hope that you are enjoying these tips I am sharing with you. Try these ideas guy’s you will see a big difference in the way she treats you.
Remember to spend time together in order to enhance your relationships .
Make Her Happy by Spending Time Together
It’s important that you do things together, we sometimes forget that. We think that just because you and your girl are living together that that’s enough. But what I am referring to here are things which are different from the routine.
It does not have to be something gigantic, it can be something as simple as what my wife and I did the other day. There had been some friction developing in our relationship. A friend gave me a piece of advice, he said the two of you should do something that is out of the ordinary, and do it together.
The more I thought about what he said the more I began t see the wisdom in it. When you and your spouse or girl friend, do something that you don’t normally do, you are in an environment that is neutral. You can see things you are not normally looking at. You can experience locations that evoke a different response for the two of you.
You do not even have to go very far. The two of us went out to eat and then we walked through our local Shopping Mall.
If you’re worried about spending money make the walk around one half hour before closing time. You will have time to see everything but not enough time to actually buy.
We did this and I noticed that the tension between us just melted away. I mean what woman doesn’t like spending time at the Mall. This was a simple but effective solution. So take some time and do a little something that is out of your normal routine with your girl, and both of you will enjoy the experience.
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